Thursday, October 3, 2013

That's Not My Name!


Written by Lauren Lind

Laura, Lindsey, Laurel, Lawrence, Karen, Warren, Girl....you name it, I’ve been called it. We all know how it feels when someone forgets your name or decides that your name is different from what it actually is. It makes you feel annoyed and as if you are insignificant to them.

Dale Carnegie was an American writer, lecturer, and the developer of famous courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills. His sixth principle from his book How to Win Friends and Influence People is “remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.” He also said, “If you remember my name, you pay me a subtle compliment; you indicate that I have made an impression on you. Remember my name and you add to my feeling of importance.” This skill  can be very useful in the business world.

Here are some tips to remembering someone’s name:

°Look and listen, be ready to hear that person’s name.

°Form an impression of that person, notice what stands out about them.

°Repeat their name a couple of times in conversation, but don’t over do it.

°Make an association between that person’s name and an image that is already familiar to you. For example if you meet a Payton, imagine them playing football with Payton Manning. You can make these associations bizarre, in fact the more bizarre the better because you will be more likely to remember their name and they will never know what you are thinking.

If you do happen to forget someone’s name, politely ask them to repeat their name and remember it for the next time. It’s also important to not over use their name. I personally find it annoying when I’m having a conversation with someone and they use my name in every sentence because that makes them seem insincere. Find a balance between over use and completely spacing what their name is. You have the ability to make a positive impression on others by simply remembering their name.